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Great Expectations: The Base Of Frustration In Human Nature And Beliefs

Author : Robert McCluskey

This document is on the subject of expectations but it has not a thing to do with a Charles Dickens narrative.  Forgive me if you got here here via a search engine due to the fact you may perhaps, in truth, have been seeking Dickens.

I have often been intrigued by "frustration" as an onlooker, a victim, and an origin of it.  In my study of Psychology I discovered that frustration entails three components:  our expectations, our beliefs about actuality and our reactions.  Psychologists identify "frustration" as our reaction to the variation between what we expect and our concept of what literally takes place.  For instance, if we expect our manager will compliment us concerning our job, and he or she says something sarcastic about it actually, we resonate negatively.  Our response might be bodily, psychological or emotional, or a blend of the three.  That reaction is known as "frustration."

The amount of our frustration is directly proportional to the variation between the intensity of our expectation and the degree of the failure of reality to correspond to the expectation. If you hold a substantial expectation of a particular outcome, you'll not be frustrated if the outcome occurs. On the other hand, if the outcome does not happen, you will undoubtedly be frustrated. The greater the initial expectation, the higher the frustration if it does not occur. In the event you don't expect any results, or have a reduced expectation, you will not experience much frustration when it doesn't happen.

Obviously, if it is possible to stay clear of experiencing expectations it is possible to avoid frustration.  It is critical to recognize this principle since in many cases, as in this illustration, we have no power over the consequences of our situations.  However, it truly is not possible to prevent expectations, since expectations are a product of our requirement to comprehend how the universe functions.  We  need to be able to exercise certain command over our habitat and understanding what to anticipate is really a requirement for that task.  Our natural environment is not always benevolent, and our expectations permit us to respond appropriately to take care of ourselves.  As an example, we might hear someone say, "I made it through that predicament due to the fact I knew what to anticipate."

We are presented with a problem: we need to have expectations in order to cope with our surroundings, but those expectations frequently yield frustration.  Two uncomplicated principles can help us to minimize frustration within the face of this dilemma of human nature:

Have practical expectations. Recognize the difference between wants and expectations. There is actually no inherent association between the two. The simple fact that we desire something doesn't create any possibility that we will acquire it.  As a way to reduce frustration we need to have the proper knowledge of the conditions and then choose suitable measures to obtain the things we desire.

When you build your expectations on variables that you do not recognize or can't or won't handle, you increase your odds of frustration.  This is particularly important in human society.  When we establish our expectations of people on our assumptions about their ideals or their beliefs and attitudes concerning us, we risk frustration.  When we are unable to tell persons what we expect of them, we are in danger of frustration as well.  When we irrationally expect men and women to magically fully grasp our own principles, philosophy and thinking, we are almost bound to be routinely frustrated.  It is irrational to found our expectations of other men and women on the assumption that they will think and act like us.

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